Are you a high-value woman over 30 who is tired of going on first dates that lead nowhere?
Do you want to build a long-term, harmonious relationship with your partner?
Well, you’re in luck because I’m here to share some dos and don’ts for first dates that will help you attract the right kind of partner and set the foundation for a lasting relationship. So buckle up, grab your coffee, and get ready for some valuable tips!
Do: Show up looking and feeling your best
First impressions matter, and I can’t emphasize this enough, so it’s important to show up looking and feeling your best. Take the time to get dressed in an outfit that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Confidence plus comfort equals more charisma. And showing up as charismatic will increase your attraction factor.
Wear something that showcases your unique style and personality, however, my advice – showing less skin is way better than revealing it all when attracting a man for a long-term relationship. If this sounds too conservative? Let me remind you that men assess risks at the very beginning. If you show a lot, he might perceive you as an attention seeker who’ll continue doing it even in a long-term relationship. Therefore he might place you in a friend zone or fun zone, very quickly. And we don’t want to take unnecessary risks.
Wear a little makeup or do your hair in a way that makes you feel fabulous.
Before going out dance with uplifting music, talk with a friend who’s always making you feel good, or find another pre-date ritual that will put you in an amazing mood.
When you feel good about yourself, you radiate confidence and positivity, which is incredibly attractive.
Don’t: Talk about your exes
As a professional dating coach, I am amazed by the fact that many women talk about their exes on a first date. Look my beautiful, First of all, no one wants to hear about your past relationships on a first date.
It’s important to focus on getting to know your date and building a connection with him. Talking about your exes can make your date feel uncomfortable and can give the impression that you’re not over your past relationships. If your date asks about your dating history, keep it brief and focus on the lessons you’ve learned rather than the details of your past relationships.
Do: Ask meaningful questions and actively listen
One of the best ways to build a connection with someone is to ask questions and actively listen to their responses. Show genuine interest in your date’s life, hobbies, and passions. Ask follow-up questions and engage in meaningful conversation. This will show your date that you’re invested in getting to know them and will help you build a deeper connection.
These days it’s hard to find people who are fully present and know how to listen. Good listeners are keepers.
Don’t: Be on your phone
Nothing says “I’m not interested” like being on your phone during a date. In the previous subtitle, I mentioned how important it is to be present and engaged during your time together.
So girl, if you wanna get closer to a long-term relationship, then put that phone in your purse and focus on your date. This will show him that you value his time and company and will help you build a stronger connection quicker.
Do: Be open-minded
Sometimes, our unrealistic expectations for a partner can be so specific that we overlook great potential matches. It’s important to be open-minded and give people a chance.
Dating apps give us the impression that there are still a lot of choices if we simply discard a guy who was a little awkward at first. And other dating gurus encourage us to keep our standards high, which might prevent us from seeing his true potential.
So, my high-value lady, keep an open mind and focus on building a connection rather than ticking off boxes on a mental checklist. You never know who you might click with and stay there forever!
Don’t: Be negative
Negativity is a major turn-off on a first date.
So, avoid complaining or talking about negative topics. Instead, focus on positive things and keep the conversation light and enjoyable. This will help create a fun, relaxed atmosphere and will make your date feel comfortable and at ease. If you make him feel comfortable and at ease, you double your chances to have another date with him.
Remember, he knows that on a first date, we show our best self, and if your best self is already negative, he’s gonna run to the hills.
Do: Leave earlier
Leaving earlier on the first date can have several benefits.
Firstly, it can give you the opportunity to end the date on a positive note, rather than letting it drag on until it becomes uncomfortable or awkward. One hour-long first date, can give to your date enough information that you’re a great person, but also feel that there’s still a lot to discover. Therefore, he’ll want to discover more during the second date.
Don’t: Act entitled
I have a chance of being surrounded by high-quality men and all of them say exactly the same thing: I knew I don’t want to see her again when I realized she was just another entitled woman expecting a full treatment without even letting me know her.
Acting entitled on a first date can be a major turnoff and is likely to sabotage any chances of a second date. It’s important to remember that a first date is an opportunity to get to know someone, not to demand attention, gifts, or special treatment. It’s important to show gratitude, kindness, and respect towards your date and their time.
Avoid nagging, talking only about yourself, or expecting your date to treat you like a spoiled child. Instead, let him get to know you and be gracious and appreciative of his efforts.
If you want to end up in a long-term relationship with a high-quality man, focusing on building a connection with your date, rather than fulfilling your own selfish desires or demands, can set the foundation for a successful and enjoyable dating experience.
Conclusion
going on a first date can be confusing, especially if you’re looking for a long-term, harmonious relationship. However, by following these essential dos and don’ts, you can set the foundation for a successful and enjoyable first date. Show up looking and feeling your best, ask questions and actively listen, be open-minded, and most importantly, don’t be a biat*h.
Remember, first dates are all about building a connection and getting to know your potential partner. By keeping the conversation light and enjoyable, avoiding negative topics, and putting your phone away, you can create a fun and relaxed atmosphere that will make your date feel comfortable and at ease. So go out there, be yourself, and have fun!
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Good luck on your dating journey, my high-value women over 30!
