Well, congratulations my high-value lady, you’ve made it through the first date, which is often the trickiest part of dating.
I’m so happy, both you and your date want to get to know each other more and deepen the connection. That’s so amazing because unfortunately, most first dates end up being just another disappointment.
But now that you’ve scheduled a second date, it’s time to get serious about making a great second impression.
Lucky for you, I’ve got some important dos and don’ts to share, to help you navigate your way to a successful second date that will secure you the third one.
Do: Plan an activity
Instead of just going out for dinner or drinks, I suggest you plan an activity that you two can do together. This could be anything from going to an art exhibit to trying a new outdoor activity to going to the stand-up comedy. It all depends on your preferences.
But why do I suggest this in the first place? Because as a dating expert, I have very good reasons for that. Doing something interesting together creates stronger bonds and builds memories, and on top of that an exciting activity can produce a lot of feel-good chemicals in the brain and he will associate that excellent feeling with you – and that’s what we want. We want him to take you to the next date and of course, to continue seeing each other.
So, go out and do something fun.
Don’t: Have expectations
The first date is “testing the waters.” We try to see if we could be a good match for a second date, therefore it’s easier and more fun. But the second date… Oops!… Pressure is higher. Obviously, you like something about him and you’re wondering where this could go. If he likes you as much as you like him? How would your life look like if you lived together? And so on.
Just stop! It’s way too early for any kind of expectations. This mindset could only lead you to disaster.
Remember you still don’t know if this guy kills puppies when he’s not with you.
So my high-value lady, just relax, observe and enjoy the process of getting to know each other. Early expectations are killers of the good vibe.
Do: Show your authentic personality
As we already discussed the second date can put some pressure on you. He liked what he saw on the first date and you don’t want to ruin it, I understand. But the only thing that could possibly ruin it is you being afraid of fucking it up, which might result in you being awkward, or maybe being too much of a people pleaser, or acting in a way that you might think he’d like you to be… Everything except being yourself.
Just remember, men are good detectors of bs and they won’t appreciate it, which might result in him ghosting you. And we definitely don’t want that to happen. We want the third date, right?
So, don’t be afraid to let your personality shine through. Take it easy, crack some jokes, share some of your interests, and don’t be afraid to be yourself.
Girl, don’t forget that the best relationships are built on genuine connections, and you can’t make a genuine connection if you’re not being genuine.
Don’t: Overshare
While it’s important to show your personality, show who you truly are, and what are your passions and interests, be mindful of oversharing.
There’s a time and a place for sharing your deepest secrets and vulnerabilities, but the second date is not it. Keep things light and fun, and save the heavy stuff for when you’ve built a stronger foundation.
Extra tip: Keeping some things unsaid creates an air of mystery and as Neil Armstrong said:
“Mystery creates wonder and wonder is the basis of man’s desire to understand.”
This means, if you create an air of mystery he’ll want to solve the mystery; to understand what’s hidden. Which will result in him being more interested in you and definitely wanting another date.
Do: Compliment your date
Don’t be shy about telling your date how great his outfit is, how you enjoy his sense of humor, or how much you enjoy his company. The more specific the complement is the more he’ll appreciate. Avoid giving generic compliments like You look good, but give him specific reasons why you think so and why you like it. For example, You really have great style. It’s so elegant and cozy at the same time. It’s exactly what I like.
Remember, women receive a lot of compliments daily, but men don’t. Therefore, if you give him a good compliment, you’ll make a difference and he’ll make a positive note in his mind about this tiny but meaningful touch.
Everyone loves a good, genuine compliment, including your date!
Do: Show him you desire him
What’s the difference between a lover and a friend?
A sexual tension.
Women who hide sexual tension at the beginning of dating, in most cases, are?
Frindzoned, ghosted, avoided. Right?
And no, I don’t think you should jump into his bed and show him you desire him this way. If you want to build a long-term relationship with a guy, you should create an emotional connection first. But then how to show sexual tension without being overly sexual?
- Use non-sexual touch. Touch his forearm or his shoulder while talking. This shows him that you’re comfortable in your skin and also allows him to touch you as well. Appropriately, of course.
- Use your beautiful eyes. Don’t be shy to use the look that shows you would tear his clothes off and do wild things with him. Only look, I said.
- Don’t be afraid to be a little bit ambiguous in a sexual way. Use sentences that might be misunderstood and if he realizes it and drops a comment, tell him in a playful way that he’s a bad boy.
Showing him you’re a playful lady, who owes her sexiness and doesn’t shy away from showing her desire toward him in a high-value way, will drive him crazy and make him stick to you. He knows what he could get but, he has to earn it.
Do: End the date on a positive note
Make sure to thank your date for a great time and express your interest in seeing him again. This can help set the stage for a third date and show that you’re genuinely interested in getting to know them better.
If you showed him you’re comfortable with physical touch, you also gave him permission to kiss you – which will give an extra hint of positivity to your second date and set a good foundation for the third one.
And lastly,
Don’t: Be too hard on yourself
Dating can be tough; following all those rules and at the same time staying authentic, mysterious, funny, sexy, and relaxed. Dang, easier said than done!
So, it’s natural to get down on yourself if things don’t go perfectly, or if you say or do something you think you shouldn’t.
Just remember my beautiful high-value lady, we all make mistakes, it’s a part of our personal growth. Dating different men is a process of finding the right person and it takes time, effort, and a few disappointments.
If he chose not to see you again, it might mean that the Universe has a way better option for you. So, don’t be too hard on yourself if things don’t go exactly as you planned it.
Be kind to yourself and keep an open mind.
Conclusion
Dating these days can be a difficult task, especially when it comes to second dates. But by following these dos and don’ts, you can feel more confident and prepared to make the most of your second-date experience.
The goal of dating is to build a connection and see if there is potential for a deeper relationship. So, if the second date doesn’t go as planned, don’t be discouraged. Keep dating, keep learning, and keep growing as an individual. And who knows your perfect match might just be waiting for you around the corner.
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Good luck and happy dating!
